What do we mean by Success? – Blog 4: Your Social Life?

Having a good social life can help you out in so many different ways through life but a question that stems from this is can we measure how successful we are based off of how good our Social Group and as a result our Social Life is? That is what today’s blog in the What do we mean by Success series is going to look at!

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Today is the fourth blog in the “What do we mean by Success?” series and is all about Social Lives. As stated in the introduction to the blog, having a good social life brings with it plenty of rewards in life but can we measure our success based off of the social life we live? Is our social life the core factor of what makes us successful or not? That is what we will be looking at in today’s blog.

As we go through life, the way we see ourselves, the world and indeed each other changes and evolves. Sometimes there are new people that enter our lives and sometimes we have people leave our lives. The people we meet and the social lie we develop differs from person to person. Some people prefer to only have a small number of friends but trust those friends with a lot whereas others may prefer to have a lot more friends and not tell them as much.

The Social Life and Group that we become a part of is ultimately our decision. We decide who we talk to and meet and it is up to us to create our own Social Life. The role that we play in that group will also differ but that can be for a number of reasons. You could be a very extroverted person who likes to be the leader of the group, you could be the quieter one than people come to talk too, you could be the problem solver that people come to when they have issues that need solving and much, much more.

The roles we play in the groups we are a part of ultimately does not matter, they are our choice and if we want to change that choice we are completely in our rights too. There is always a debate going around regarding Social Lives and it involves quality and quantity. I have heard a number of people ask if it is better to have a Social Life where you are going out every day of the week and then others say that they go out once a week or once a month.

The question that people often pose is does the number of times I go out a week effect my social group? Is my social group better than someone else’s because we go out more? Does that mean our group is more successful? Less successful? Neither?

The answer to those questions, similar to most of the questions I ask in this series are completely down to your own opinion. There is no right or wrong answer and I am not here to tell you that what you believe is not right. Sometimes going out more is good then other times it is bad. It all depends on who you are as a person, what your group is like, what you are doing and a lot more factors,

Measuring if we our successful or not based off of solely our Social Lives is a very difficult thing to do. You can spend a lot of time thinking about it but may ultimately end up with nothing. The Social Lives and groups that we are a part of do change throughout life. Even if you stay in the same group all your life, the way you meet up and communicate will change somewhere down the line.

People these days live very busy lives. People have differing workloads that change over time and will also have an impact on the group that you are a part of. Sometimes groups will have to meet less as people are busy whereas there may be other times where you can meet up more due to not having much work on. It fluctuates a lot which adds to the complexity in measuring it in relation to being successful or not.

Another factor which adds yet another layer of complexity into the debate is what if you have not even got a social group? What if you speak to a number of different people but not as a group? Does that still create like a group with you being the center or does it mean that you are not a part of a group? Does this impact on if you are successful or not?

If people trust you and always speak to you but you are not a part of a group does this mean that you are unsuccessful? There really is no end to this debate as it is all down to a matter of opinion.I have my own view on it and you will have yours too. As always these blogs are not created to force you into a certain way of thinking, I am simply asking questions and looking into what your opinions may be.

Success is a word that we use nearly everyday but when we actually look at it, what does it mean? I have found that success means different things to different people. Some people think that a good social life means you are successful in life whereas others do not even count it as a factor. It is an interesting debate to have with people and can lead you to think about questions you would not usually think of.

That is all I want to talk about in today’s blog. What do you all think? Do you think your social life impacts on whether you are successful or not in life? What does success mean to you? Do you think there is a right answer to the questions I have asked in this blog? Let me know what you think of these questions either in the comments below or through our Facebook page.

Thank you all for reading and I hope you have a great day,