The “Ask Twice” Model

“How are you doing?”

It’s a question we ask all the time – at work, in passing or with friends. However, how often do you actually expect to hear an honest answer? 🧐

With this in mind, we’re going to be exploring what some people refer to as the “Ask Twice” model in today’s blog. So, without further ado, let’s get into it.

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When asked how we’re doing, most of us default to: “Yeah I’m all good, you?”, even during those times or scenarios when we’re not feeling like our usual selves. Life moves fast, and it can be easier to give a quick response rather than genuinely opening up and placing yourself in a vulnerable and honest position.

But sometimes, all it takes is that second ask:

💬 “No really, how are you doing lately?”

You never know what somebody is going through, a simple “I’m fine”, can become “Actually, I’ll be honest, I’m not doing too good”.

By asking twice, you aren’t pushing, you’re creating space. You’re showing them if they want to talk, you’re there to genuinely listen to what they say.

They might open up and talk to you there and then, or they might leave ir for the time being, knowing that when they are ready, you are there for them. You don’t act like you have all of the answers, as you likely won’t, however, making that space and allowing them to speak freely is such a liberating feeling and shows them how much you care.

So, next time you check in with something, try asking twice. You never know the difference it might make. Have you heard of the “Ask Twice” model before? How’s your week going so far?

I’d love to hear your thoughts ⤵️

Thanks for reading and I hope you have a lovely day!